Any problems that a relationship has, is only magnified by marriage. As a wise woman once said, if your relationship is struggling, being legally bound to your partner is not going to fix it.

Some might deem divorces rather depressing, a marriage falling apart is no matter of joy but allow us to offer a fresh perspective to the predicament. Divorce helps people extricate themselves from unhealthy relationships.

Your marriage running its course is not the end of your life. Always remember, when one door closes, another opens.

Tips to Make a Divorce Easier: Legal Edition

#1 Appoint A Trusted Divorce Lawyer

Support from the right divorce attorney is essential. A good lawyer can turn tides and be a steady pillar of support in these troubled times. They will go through the process with you, aided by their expertise and knowledge of martial law along with confidence. If your divorce involves minor children, you should find a lawyer who looks after not only yours but your kids’ interest as well.

#2 Sort Your Finances

A divorce requires you to assess your finances. You can get your attorney to assist you in appraising your assets and debts. Assets include personal property, requirement accounts, pensions, and businesses.

#3 Run A Credit Report to Analyze Debt

A credit report will help you identify your outstanding debts. For example, you should be able to afford the mortgage payments on your marital home. You will also need to consider if the house has any equity. The divorce lawyer will evaluate your credit card statements and tax records of the past 3 years to calculate a marital balance sheet.

#4 Figure Out Your Expenses

At Foshee and Yaffee, we provide our clients with worksheets to evaluate their living expenses and arrive at a conclusion to ensure financial stability once the divorce is underway. After you have figured out your expenditure, you and your attorney can discuss the possibility of alimony and spousal support. In case there are children involved, you and your spouse should also discuss child support.

#5 Set Some Realistic Goals

Before you take your proceeding to the court, it is imperative that you and your attorney have worked on a realistic compensation that you hope to reap from the divorce. When you head to the jury you should have a clear idea of what you need, and what areas are you willing to negotiate. Go over the case multiple times with your divorce lawyer until you have an articulate picture.

#6 Bonus - Take Care and Be Gentle with Yourself

It’s no secret that a divorce can be taxing to one’s mental health. Years of togetherness culminating in separation is going to jerk a few tears, no matter how alpha you are. It helps if you realize that divorce is not you Vs. your partner, instead it’s the two of you looking for a better life you couldn’t find with each other.

Of course, in a contested divorce if your partner decides to be uncooperative you should handle it with a firm hand. Never let them take away what’s rightfully yours.

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Allow time for emotional release and indulge your passions. Find healthy coping mechanisms. Do you like makeup? Maybe you can do a new eye look to take your mind off the conflict? Maybe you like to read. Perhaps a relaxing reread of your comfort book for you then. Keep reminding yourself of your worth, no matter what happens.

It’s been almost half a century since Foshee and Yaffe began its journey as a law firm. We believe in building close relationships with our clients. To schedule an appointment with us call us at (405) 378-3033.

**Disclaimer: This content is not to be construed as legal advice nor does it establish terms of a client-attorney relationship.

5+1 Things That You Should Know about Divorce